"Surely, the true religion in Allah's sight is Islam" (3:19)
Since marital love is prone to sickness and even death, it is imperative for couples to constantly work to revitalize and preserve it. Husbands and wives must do the following: 1. They have to get in the habit of saying things that are positive, like offering compliments and like making little prayers for each other. A husband could say to his wife: “If I were sent back to the days of my youth, I would not choose for a wife
Read moreWhilst divorce may release one from oppression, it is used as a door for a different oppression by some. It requires true piety & great character to fulfil one another’s rights after divorce. Trying to show who is more powerful, who was right or being bitter about how the marriage ended, spreading rumour & insult results in great loss & silent suffering of the perpetrators & at times the innocent children. Children take to all sorts of regretful habits because
Read more1. Teach children to use the right hand for eating, drinking, giving and taking. To eat and drink while sitting, and to stay, ‘Bismillah’ before eating and, ‘Alhamdulillah’ after finishing. 2. Teach children hygienic etiquette, to clip fingernails and toe nails, and to wash hands before and after eating. 3. Teach them how to clean themselves after using the toilet and how to keep urine off their clothes. 4. Correct their mistakes kindly and privately without scolding them. 5. Instruct
Read moreThere is great need to devote special attention to the nurturing of children. How will the nurturing of children take place? By establishing friendship! Establish friendship with one’s children. You are in search of friends? What need is there for this! If Allah ta`ala has granted you four sons, realise that your sons are your friends. Establish friendship with your children. Harshness and severity will not work. Keep your relationship with the wife a pleasant and wholesome one. Remember that
Read moreIn the name of Allah, Most Gracious Most Merciful Allah says in the Glorious Qur’an: “And live with [them] in a beautiful manner. If you are then displeased with them, [then know] perhaps you dislike something which Allah has created abundant goodness in it (al-Qur’an 4:19 ). The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said: The believer with the most perfect faith is the one who has best character and the one who is kindest to his wife
Read moreAs the days come to closer to one’s marriage, excitement, ecstasy and elation pump through the bride and groom. The build up to marriage is an experience of thrill and jubilation. When the marriage is solemnised, one’s happiness and delight is on the verge of brimming and tipping over. When the newlywed couple meet for the first time, words cannot describe the sweetness of the bliss, serenity, pleasure and elation tasted by the two. If every day of the marriage
Read more19th century Ottoman scholar Bediuzzaman writes: Happy the husband who sees the wife’s firm religion and follows her, and himself becomes pious in order not to lose his companion of eternal life. Happy the wife who sees her husband’s firmness in religion and becomes pious so as not to lose her eternal friend. Alas for the man who becomes dissolute, which will lose him for ever that righteous woman. Alas for the woman who does not follow her pious husband
Read moreHadhrat Luqmaan Alayhis salam – who was unanimously Hakeem (wise) and a Nabi according to somewas employed as a labourer in an orchard. One day, the owner of the orchard came and asked him to bring some cucumbers. He peeled one and gave it Hadhrat Luqmaan who started eating it with relish. The owner, witnessing Hadhrat Luqmaan eating the cucumber with such relish thought that it must be rather delicious. He placed a slice of it into his mouth and
Read moreBy Shaikh Salmaan Fahd By no means is love a sickness in and of itself. Indeed, it is the only known cure for many of the problems and ailments that we as human beings suffer from. However, love can turn into an illness if it becomes obsessive, if it goes beyond its proper bounds, or if the object of love is not worthy. When such a situation develops, love indeed becomes a sickness requiring a remedy. It is Allah (Subhaanahu
Read moreBy Khalid Baig In all societies and at all times marriage has been considered an occssion for great joy. The word most used with “wedding” is “celebration.” In fiction, which reflects our inner desires, they “lived happily ever after.” Obviously seeking success in marriage has been a pre-occupation of all societies. Today in the U.S. — a society as advanced as human endeavour alone without Divine Guidance can make it — the average length of “ever after” is about seven
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