Characteristics of a Pious Wife

A pious woman’s priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman’s qualities.

A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]

An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked “Who are the best of women?” He replied, “The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes.”

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

Reflect on:
If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: “Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]

If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]

Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].

A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]

The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

by Al-Islaah Publications


  • uslim baby names

    Pious wife is a great gift of Allah azovajal.

  • Aniya

    what does a wife do when her husband refuses to talk planly? how can she know what her man wants?

  • jj

    insha allah just ask your husband to explain. as we say here in the west…the only dumb question is the one that is never asked. if you ask your husband to explain more and in a nice way you ask him as i do my husband..he will be glad to go into more expalining for you…you have to let him know you do nt understand in order for him to help you understand. Insha allah this will work for you…good luck…and remember…your husband is not a mind reader and you have to let him know when you dont understand something…be always patient with him and allah will bless you with knowing all…

  • yusra

    i want to be a good and understanding wife to my husband,though am not married yet,the man am engaged to has all the qualities a good husband should have but i dont love him at all just his qualities.What do i do,i dont want to make a decision i will regret,bisalam

    • Kokolokobam

      people barely marry for love if he has the charectisristcs of Rasoolullah sallalahu alayhi was alarm then don’t hesitate because you will love anyone who mimics our messenger peace be upon him to his best ability.

    • faisal aminu

      Be greatful and thankful to Allaaah SWA… One day one time you may love him as you like his qualities in shaa Allah.. Bissalam

  • jay

    Love is something that you do for the sake of Allah, You will become a better person if you love something for the sake of Allah. Your love should be for Allah SWT and the prophet PBUH. Loving someone can sometime be satan deception which can draw you away from your religion, or on the other side make you closer to Allah SWT. Love, peace and well being of a person is when they are close to Allah SWT. The last thing you want is to love someone who has bad qualities this will end you up in sins. If someone has good qualities in time you will fall in love. it all depends whats you think love is, if i am not wrong i guess you are not physically attractive to him. if not my opinion will be to cool off the engagment, last thing you want is to get married and then love someone else, which will cause the marriage to break… and i’m sure love is not about hurting anyone, for personal gains in what ever means, but to give, love is to give… may Allah SWT guide you sister

    • Rahmat

      Thanx so much Jay for d piece of advice, all what u said is pointing at me, Buh now av adjusted myself, trying hard to love someone dt have all d qualities n fear of Allah Buh not physically attracted to me, Alhamdulillah am loving him gradually.

  • Mohammad

    Love only for the sake of Allah (SWT) and no one else, when you do that, Allah (SWT) will make your marriage successful, Inshallah !!!

    Allah (SWT) knows best.

  • Safir Ahmad


    It is very nice of you to give advice in your short articles. I usually always read them. I would like to ask a question, if I may?

    QUESTION: In your article; “Characteristics of a Pious Wife”

    You state: The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

    My question is about the word you used “BOW DOWN”. Should this be “bow down” or “prostrate”

    Please kindly let me know.

    Safir Ahmad

  • the angel

    i want to marry a person who is very nice, loves me alot and have all the qualities which a good husband should have. But he is a divorced man.i want him in my life but i am confused becoz i dont forget abt his divorce.sometimes this thing make me depressed. But i know that i will lead a very good life with him.now in the light of our religion plz guide me how i should accept his divorce.or how can i forget abt it.

  • anonymous

    Dear “the angel”,

    Everyone has a past…if a man has been bad his whole life then just before he dies he becomes good and asks for forgiveness Allah may even forgive all his sins, just like that u should look at a person for who they are at this moment, if u keep thinking about his past and divorce that is shaytan holding u back from getting to know someone who may be an amazing person InshAllah.. Hope that helped 🙂 Salaam

  • Yusuf hassan

    Do not forget to ask Allah for good wives for he is the giver of what is good. We ask Him for the best

  • Am a widow we dont have any kids & my husband is very religious person for that he posses all that good quality,my fear is that, in my country, men, they have the habit of rushing, to marry widow especially if she dont have any kids with late husband or the husband is rich and she attended school. And i have all the above requrement, for that men would hide all his bad charracters at the time he waint woman for marriage know what can i do in oder to know a man luv me truely by Allah

  • haak

    Asalamu alaikum all bros and sis
    After checking the four things the Prophet(SAW) said, but put Deen first then pray your salatul istigharah and leave the rest to Allah(Tawakal tu Allla Lah).

  • Yasmin

    I suspect my husband a lot although he. Does not do anything wrong I dont like him looking at women he does not stare I feel bad at times for fighting with him on all these issues pls advice

  • hansa lila

    to Yasmin
    I no how u feel it’s probably cus u luv him n care so much
    about him that makes u like dat just pray to Allah that ur marriage is successfull inshallah . I love my husband a lot n care about him I tink days why I become suspicious too even tho ders nothin der subhannallh just pray a lot an it’s probably shaytaan making us like dat.

  • Yasmin

    Thank you so much hasna for ur advice will try not to hurt his feelings through my actions or words inshallah may Allah guide us all on the right path ameen.

  • Iram

    Love before marriage does not exist!!
    There is no such thing as love,love is lust.
    Marriage is about mercy, peace and blessings from Allah. If you believe that he has the qualities of good husband go for it, inshallah it will be good for you.
    As physical attraction is concerned that will come after marriage with Allahs blessings.Read 2Nafl prayer before .Also after marriage read 2Nafl prayer before “”” .
    May Allah bless you

  • Abdulkadir

    Jazaka allah, these traits will guard me having such a pious and faithful women then i wish that i will apply ur advice. thanks again

  • salminakv

    lbw is OUT !!!!!!!!!!!! Lov bfore wedding

  • El-Rufai Uthman

    It’s very amazing to have religious people that, exchanging ideas concerning their religious. May Allah (SWT) guide & protect us, ameen.

  • Abdulkhaliq

    Allahu akbar
    Brothers n sisters honestly speaking am very happy
    That we have people like U.if all muslims were like u(quran and sunnah for guidance)we would have been blessed by Allah(swt)..all of u keep it up
    And wallah as long as u are on this path ur life will be great
    And jannah in the end inshallah.as for me I will marry inshallah a girl
    Who abides by the teachings of the qur’aan and sunnah.when?Allah knows
    Thanks to the owner of the article and u all
    Wasalamu alaykum warahmatullah

  • Nurulhikmah

    The Prophet, be peace upon him said;

    “There is nothing better for two who loves each other than marriage”

    (sahih al-jami’:5200)

    cc Iram, The Prophet PBUH himself said it. so love before marriage does exist.
    syaitaan whispered human to spoil the love with lust by not observing the adaab of socialization between different genders (ikhtilaat)

    and Allah is The All-Knowing.

  • I Love Allah

    Asalaam ul alaikum,

    We are in a time where a righteous women are labelled as “oppressed women”. All those things that a righteous women should do is now labelled as slavery to her husband.
    The west has poison the mind of our sisters, promoted them to go out and work and live your own life, and your husband has no rights over you.
    I also blame brothers also not being good husband, which gave non-muslims a valid point to promote our sisters to western world.
    The beauty of a righteous wife is her beautiful character that calms her husband when he returns from work stressed out, give love and affection to her kids and prepare them for this world and hereafter.
    In UK, mother throws their kid to child day care at the age of 2, which is appalling.
    A Muslim wife has a bigger role in this world than working part time job. She is meant to support and obey her husband and nurture her kids to achieve the goal that Allah (swt) has commanded to his creation.
    Satan biggest achievement is when couple break up, however a couple that has a love for Allah (swt) and our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) will love each other no matter what the situation is, because for them is always a win win situation.
    Hope my message was clear to you all.


    • Friends of Allah recognise Allah

      Hey chill out.
      Go in Jamaath for 4 months.
      You will forget about everything except Allah.
      A Muslim Male or Female lives to take from Allah and give to the creation.
      Hardship, Black Magic, Taweez all the bad that happens to a person is a part of living in this world.
      Best medicine is Saboor and Salaah, then make plenty of Duaa, regularly.
      Jamaath gives access to Noor.

  • sadia

    Asallamuallaik, Masha Allah ☝ I have learnt something. May Allah guide us to make the right choices of choosing our spouse.

  • Lateefah

    Alhamdullah I have learn alot on this forum May Allah (swt) guide everyone of us and easy all our tasks Amin.

  • Anonymous

    Seems like a typical man lays these rules on how he want a woman to be his slaves.
    Your wife is not your property. She does not owe you her soul. You earn it.
    I know u’re wondering if I’m a non muslim. No I’m a woman and I was born Muslim and choose to stay Muslim too. In my community men see women as property and controls them like slaves because some hadiths says women must obey their husbands whether she likes it or not just because he provides her with food, clothes, bla bla bla. What if she can provides for herself better than he can provide for her? Would she make him her slave too? U would say NO because a woman can’t rule a man and that I find sexist! What disturbs me so much is how women don’t question why is that and instead she becomes an unquestionable slaves who were bn abused always. She has no voice, she can’t do anything good without his approval and if he happens to abuse her then she would be told it’s okay bcoz this is how marriage works. I think those who lay those rules should have do as much to talk about women’s right over her husband instead of saying much of her duties and less for the men. Only then women would find justice.


  • Aliyu Idrissa

    Assalamu ‘alaikum.
    I appreciate the content of this blog, it is educative.
    My dear brothers in Islam, please include me in your prayers, I am looking for a pious beautiful lady to marry.


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