On the Day of Judgment :Allah will ask men if they fulfilled their obligations towards their families. They who fear Allah will do their best to direct the way his wife and children live by educating himself and his family to living according to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and the Holy Qur’an, the final word of Allah.
The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “The best of you is the best one to his family.” [Al-Tabarani]
To share food with her, to provide her with (decent) clothes as he provides himself, to refrain from smacking her, and not ignoring her but in the house. [Ahmad]
One should not hate his believer wife. If he dislikes some of her attitudes, he would (surely) like others (attitudes). [Muslim]
Woman was created from a bent rib and will not be made straight for you on one way (that you like). If you want to enjoy her, you enjoy her while she is still bent. If you want to straighten her up, you will break her. Breaking her is divorcing her. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Do (volunteer) fasting (some days) and do not fast (in other days), pray at night (some nights) and sleep (in other nights). Your body has a right on you (to rest), your eye has a right on you (to sleep), and your wife has a right on you. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Fear Allah in (treating) women. [Muslim]
Be advised to treat women righteously. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing that Allah brings through it a great deal of good. [4:19]
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said,”A Dinar (a currency) that you spend on your family, a Dinar that you spend on a poor person and a Dinar that you spend in the sake of Allah. The one that carries the most reward is the one that you spend on your family.” [Muslim]
The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said to Saaid ibn Abi Waqqas,”Know that no charity that you give whether small or large, for the sake of Allah, but you will be rewarded for it, even the bite (of food) that you put in your wife’s mouth.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
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Mashallah!
How beautiful is this!. We must all treat our wives with kindness and we must do all sorts of good deeds.Jazak Allah Khair!
I am really pleased to read that…..feeling happiness inside my heart ….. Hope that I can always follow this way
salaam aleikoum,
they say the best gift is to be blessed with a sincere loving muslim woman
but its also a blessing to have a sincere loving muslim man
they are hard to find
This article describes how one should treat his wife, with kindness and respect and to provide for his family. But it doesn’t talk about how a husband should help his wife in the home. We men must learn to separate culture from religion and pick up a hoover and wash some dishes. Helping ones wife in all aspects
…and by helping ones wife looks good in the eyes of allah. remember Mohamed (PBUH) helped in the house as well. he cleaned, he washed his own clothes. he was always helpful with his wives.
i wish men understand this and have big hearts..because wemen do not object whatsoever their men do..they take everything as their fate and cooperate..men must let go of their ego..its not gonna bring them joy..if they want their wives to respect them and obey them then they shuld first let go of their ego and respect their wives…if they wont let go of their ego their wives will fear them ,hate them but never respect them from the depth of their hearts…and whenever they will get a chance they will show their dislike..whether in this world or the next.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Men should not show to her wife that he dislikes something about her because there will be time when the women notice. I hope men these days are Pious, because as what as I can see men these days are not.
Wassalam.. May Allah Bless us all.
Ameen.
Posting a quote from another forum :
I have a few suggestions for you brothers and sisters:
You sisters should acknowledge that there are ignorant/dunya-focusing sisters in Islam.
You brothers should acknowledge that there are ignorant/dunya-focusing brothers in Islam.
Both should acknowledge that not all sisters are bad and not all brothers are bad.
Please stop generalizing all the time, instead try to lead a beneficial discussion from which we can learn and move on to positively progress in our marital life.
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?56025-Pious-Muslim-Women-of-THIS-ERA-How-to-recognise-one&p=461157&viewfull=1#post461157
Mostly what laed to divorce between husband and wife is lack of full knowledge of the right of a wife by the husband especially in some part of Africa that treat their wives as slave. thanks for your enlightenment may Allah reward you abundantly. how i wish all Muslims accross the globe will subscribe to this.
Abdulazeez Kabiru
Abuja Nigeria