A pious woman’s priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman’s qualities.
Examples:
A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]
An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked “Who are the best of women?” He replied, “The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes.”
Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”
Reflect on:
If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: “Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]
If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]
Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].
A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]
The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]
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Pious wife is a great gift of Allah azovajal.
what does a wife do when her husband refuses to talk planly? how can she know what her man wants?
insha allah just ask your husband to explain. as we say here in the west…the only dumb question is the one that is never asked. if you ask your husband to explain more and in a nice way you ask him as i do my husband..he will be glad to go into more expalining for you…you have to let him know you do nt understand in order for him to help you understand. Insha allah this will work for you…good luck…and remember…your husband is not a mind reader and you have to let him know when you dont understand something…be always patient with him and allah will bless you with knowing all…
i want to be a good and understanding wife to my husband,though am not married yet,the man am engaged to has all the qualities a good husband should have but i dont love him at all just his qualities.What do i do,i dont want to make a decision i will regret,bisalam
Love is something that you do for the sake of Allah, You will become a better person if you love something for the sake of Allah. Your love should be for Allah SWT and the prophet PBUH. Loving someone can sometime be satan deception which can draw you away from your religion, or on the other side make you closer to Allah SWT. Love, peace and well being of a person is when they are close to Allah SWT. The last thing you want is to love someone who has bad qualities this will end you up in sins. If someone has good qualities in time you will fall in love. it all depends whats you think love is, if i am not wrong i guess you are not physically attractive to him. if not my opinion will be to cool off the engagment, last thing you want is to get married and then love someone else, which will cause the marriage to break… and i’m sure love is not about hurting anyone, for personal gains in what ever means, but to give, love is to give… may Allah SWT guide you sister
Love only for the sake of Allah (SWT) and no one else, when you do that, Allah (SWT) will make your marriage successful, Inshallah !!!
Allah (SWT) knows best.
Here are some more excellent comment in a forum on this topic.
#7 : http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?56025-Pious-Muslim-Women-of-THIS-ERA-How-to-recognise-one&p=460736&viewfull=1#post460736
#35: http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?56025-Pious-Muslim-Women-of-THIS-ERA-How-to-recognise-one&p=461223&viewfull=1#post461223
Salam
It is very nice of you to give advice in your short articles. I usually always read them. I would like to ask a question, if I may?
QUESTION: In your article; “Characteristics of a Pious Wife”
You state: The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]
My question is about the word you used “BOW DOWN”. Should this be “bow down” or “prostrate”
Please kindly let me know.
Safir Ahmad