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Characteristics of a Pious Wife

A pious woman’s priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman’s qualities.

Examples:
A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]

An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked “Who are the best of women?” He replied, “The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes.”

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

Reflect on:
If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: “Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]

If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]

Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].

A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]

The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

by Al-Islaah Publications

22 Comments

  1. uslim baby names says:

    Pious wife is a great gift of Allah azovajal.

  2. Aniya says:

    what does a wife do when her husband refuses to talk planly? how can she know what her man wants?

  3. jj says:

    insha allah just ask your husband to explain. as we say here in the west…the only dumb question is the one that is never asked. if you ask your husband to explain more and in a nice way you ask him as i do my husband..he will be glad to go into more expalining for you…you have to let him know you do nt understand in order for him to help you understand. Insha allah this will work for you…good luck…and remember…your husband is not a mind reader and you have to let him know when you dont understand something…be always patient with him and allah will bless you with knowing all…

  4. yusra says:

    i want to be a good and understanding wife to my husband,though am not married yet,the man am engaged to has all the qualities a good husband should have but i dont love him at all just his qualities.What do i do,i dont want to make a decision i will regret,bisalam

  5. jay says:

    Love is something that you do for the sake of Allah, You will become a better person if you love something for the sake of Allah. Your love should be for Allah SWT and the prophet PBUH. Loving someone can sometime be satan deception which can draw you away from your religion, or on the other side make you closer to Allah SWT. Love, peace and well being of a person is when they are close to Allah SWT. The last thing you want is to love someone who has bad qualities this will end you up in sins. If someone has good qualities in time you will fall in love. it all depends whats you think love is, if i am not wrong i guess you are not physically attractive to him. if not my opinion will be to cool off the engagment, last thing you want is to get married and then love someone else, which will cause the marriage to break… and i’m sure love is not about hurting anyone, for personal gains in what ever means, but to give, love is to give… may Allah SWT guide you sister

  6. Mohammad says:

    Love only for the sake of Allah (SWT) and no one else, when you do that, Allah (SWT) will make your marriage successful, Inshallah !!!

    Allah (SWT) knows best.

  7. Safir Ahmad says:

    Salam

    It is very nice of you to give advice in your short articles. I usually always read them. I would like to ask a question, if I may?

    QUESTION: In your article; “Characteristics of a Pious Wife”

    You state: The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

    My question is about the word you used “BOW DOWN”. Should this be “bow down” or “prostrate”

    Please kindly let me know.

    Safir Ahmad

  8. the angel says:

    i want to marry a person who is very nice, loves me alot and have all the qualities which a good husband should have. But he is a divorced man.i want him in my life but i am confused becoz i dont forget abt his divorce.sometimes this thing make me depressed. But i know that i will lead a very good life with him.now in the light of our religion plz guide me how i should accept his divorce.or how can i forget abt it.

  9. anonymous says:

    Dear “the angel”,

    Everyone has a past…if a man has been bad his whole life then just before he dies he becomes good and asks for forgiveness Allah may even forgive all his sins, just like that u should look at a person for who they are at this moment, if u keep thinking about his past and divorce that is shaytan holding u back from getting to know someone who may be an amazing person InshAllah.. Hope that helped :) Salaam

  10. Yusuf hassan says:

    Do not forget to ask Allah for good wives for he is the giver of what is good. We ask Him for the best

  11. Jamila Aliyu says:

    Am a widow we dont have any kids & my husband is very religious person for that he posses all that good quality,my fear is that, in my country, men, they have the habit of rushing, to marry widow especially if she dont have any kids with late husband or the husband is rich and she attended school. And i have all the above requrement, for that men would hide all his bad charracters at the time he waint woman for marriage know what can i do in oder to know a man luv me truely by Allah

  12. haak says:

    Asalamu alaikum all bros and sis
    After checking the four things the Prophet(SAW) said, but put Deen first then pray your salatul istigharah and leave the rest to Allah(Tawakal tu Allla Lah).
    Done

  13. Yasmin says:

    I suspect my husband a lot although he. Does not do anything wrong I dont like him looking at women he does not stare I feel bad at times for fighting with him on all these issues pls advice

  14. hansa lila says:

    to Yasmin
    I no how u feel it’s probably cus u luv him n care so much
    about him that makes u like dat just pray to Allah that ur marriage is successfull inshallah . I love my husband a lot n care about him I tink days why I become suspicious too even tho ders nothin der subhannallh just pray a lot an it’s probably shaytaan making us like dat.

  15. Yasmin says:

    Thank you so much hasna for ur advice will try not to hurt his feelings through my actions or words inshallah may Allah guide us all on the right path ameen.

  16. Iram says:

    Love before marriage does not exist!!
    There is no such thing as love,love is lust.
    Marriage is about mercy, peace and blessings from Allah. If you believe that he has the qualities of good husband go for it, inshallah it will be good for you.
    As physical attraction is concerned that will come after marriage with Allahs blessings.Read 2Nafl prayer before .Also after marriage read 2Nafl prayer before “”" .
    May Allah bless you

  17. Abdulkadir says:

    Jazaka allah, these traits will guard me having such a pious and faithful women then i wish that i will apply ur advice. thanks again

  18. salminakv says:

    lbw is OUT !!!!!!!!!!!! Lov bfore wedding

  19. El-Rufai Uthman says:

    Salam!
    It’s very amazing to have religious people that, exchanging ideas concerning their religious. May Allah (SWT) guide & protect us, ameen.
    Bissalam.

  20. Abdulkhaliq says:

    Allahu akbar
    Brothers n sisters honestly speaking am very happy
    That we have people like U.if all muslims were like u(quran and sunnah for guidance)we would have been blessed by Allah(swt)..all of u keep it up
    And wallah as long as u are on this path ur life will be great
    And jannah in the end inshallah.as for me I will marry inshallah a girl
    Who abides by the teachings of the qur’aan and sunnah.when?Allah knows
    Thanks to the owner of the article and u all
    Wasalamu alaykum warahmatullah

  21. Nurulhikmah says:

    The Prophet, be peace upon him said;

    “There is nothing better for two who loves each other than marriage”

    (sahih al-jami’:5200)

    cc Iram, The Prophet PBUH himself said it. so love before marriage does exist.
    syaitaan whispered human to spoil the love with lust by not observing the adaab of socialization between different genders (ikhtilaat)

    and Allah is The All-Knowing.

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